Holidays should be a time of great family memories and warmth. When families
become blended following divorce or remarriage, however, the holiday season
can cause many to suffer from unwanted anxiety and stress. Our Washington
family law attorneys have provided some helpful tips you may want to consider
so you and your family can enjoy the holidays as worry-free as possible.
1. Be Okay with Celebrating Holidays on Different Dates.
When it comes to surviving the holidays in a new family setting, it is
important to maintain an open mind. To create a more comfortable atmosphere
during the holiday event, ensure that one single day works for every family
member or most your family. Remember, it is okay to celebrate a holiday
on a different date. The most important thing is being together.
2. Do Not Attempt to Have Control Over Every Interaction.
A new setting can make you feel on edge. For many, this feeling derives
from the thought of newer, unfamiliar family members spending quality
time each other. However, it is important to let interactions occur naturally.
Do not try to involve yourself in every conversation in order to keep
any disputes from arising. The more natural the atmosphere feels, the
more fun everyone will have and the more comfortable the holiday will be.
3. If You Have Nothing Nice to Say, Don’t Say Anything.
Remember, the key to having a successful holiday is maintaining a positive
attitude, especially if you are hosting the holiday gathering. To keep
the peace, try not to say anything that could be misinterpreted by another
family member and be sensitive to topics of conversation that may make
4. Create a New Tradition to Bring Everyone Together.
One of the best things a newer, blended family can do to create a more
comfortable holiday setting is starting a new tradition. Perhaps your
old tradition used to be singing Christmas carols around the tree after
opening presents. This could be uncomfortable or even sad after a family
change. Change it up to help your blended family bond over a new experience,
such as taking an after-dinner stroll to look at Christmas lights and
singing carols in your neighborhood instead.
McKinley Irvin is Here to Help Your Family
If you have been contemplating divorce or are already moving through the
divorce process and would like to speak with an experienced Washington
divorce lawyer, get in touch with our legal team at McKinley Irvin right
away. We can help you and your family protect what you value most.
For more insights about divorced and blended families, view our
Can Divorced Families be Healthy Families?
infographic and other articles on how to prioritize healthy family relationships