The Hazards of Email, Text Messages & Social Media in a Divorce

Posted on September 16, 2013 02:13pm
The Hazards of Email, Text Messages & Social Media in a Divorce

Email. Texting. Facebook. Instagram. Any one of these methods of electronic communication can—and have—been used as evidence in court. For people going through a divorce, you should expect that your electronic communications will be scrutinized.

Many individuals going through a divorce freely text, email and status-update without considering the strategic risks and dangers that come along with these types of electronic communications. Before you post your next Facebook update, consider some interesting stats from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers:

  • 92% of AAML divorce attorneys cited an increase in cases using evidence taken from smart phones during the past three years.
  • In the same survey, 94% noted an increase in text message evidence.
  • 81% of AAML members say they have seen increased use of evidence from social networking websites during the past five years (with Facebook being cited as the primary culprit).

This post will cover what you need to know and do to avoid the potential hazards of your electronic communications and how your communications might be used as evidence in a family law case.

Act Like You Will Have to Defend Any Electronic Communication in Court, Because You Probably Will

Every study on the subject and every association of attorneys who have practiced in the area have come to the same conclusion: the use of electronic communications as evidence in divorce proceedings is on the rise and it won't be going away any time soon.

This rise in the use of electronic evidence, however, generally has not been lamented by divorce attorneys. In fact, it has made our jobs easier by providing a virtual treasure chest of potential exhibits and evidence for trial. Therefore, in all likelihood, if you choose to use electronic communication during your divorce, you may have to explain it in court.

Use Electronic Communication Deliberately and Sparingly

Given this state of affairs, it advisable for any spouse going through a divorce proceeding to consider the following general principles before sending any electronic communication - because once you hit the send, post, or tweet button, it is permanently backed up and accessible to your spouse and their attorney.

  • Presume that every communication will be entered into evidence, and only include language or information that you would like your judge to see.
  • Don't send any text message, Facebook status update, or e-mail in a moment of anger. These can be taken out of context in divorce proceedings and used to paint an untrue and unflattering picture of your personality.
  • Prepare a first draft of any e-mail concerning the divorce (or that will be sent to your spouse) and review it to ensure that it accurately conveys your intentions and demeanor and cannot be misinterpreted.

You don’t need to give up your Facebook, smart phone and email accounts entirely, but while subject to the scrutiny that comes with a divorce proceeding, it is advisable to use them only with care and purpose.

How Will My Electronic Communications Be Used in Court?

The potential uses of electronic communications are endless. However, in the past, e-mails, tweets and status updates have been used to:

  • Indicate a person's state of mind
  • Show where a person was at a particular day and time
  • Show collaboration between two parties
  • Contradict statements made in court or in pre-trial disclosures

For example, if a spouse has testified to the court that they are undergoing required substance abuse classes or are controlling their alcoholism, an online picture or statement providing evidence of drinking might be used to contradict that testimony.

Similarly, there are reported cases of a spouse seeking alimony who had her statement that she was unable to work contradicted by job interview requests posted on LinkedIn. Photos of large purchases or status updates indicating frivolous spending have also been used as evidence of one spouse lacking financial stability or wasting marital assets.

Custody proceedings are also implicated, as online status updates and compromising pictures have provided evidence of improper parenting skills or an unstable household.

The list of examples goes on, but it is safe to say that there is almost no aspect of a dissolution proceeding that could not potentially include the use of electronic communications as evidence.

What About Online Privacy?

Courts have been reluctant to extend any meaningful privacy protections to online information. Some have even concluded that there is no reasonable expectation of privacy on social networking sites at all. Whatever expectation of privacy an individual is entitled to, however, is (for all intents and purposes) lost when divorce proceedings begin.

A number of courts have concluded that divorcing parties may be granted full access to their spouse's Facebook and MySpace accounts (including private and deleted data); this access can even include turning over passwords, usernames and logins for social networking sites to a spouse or a spouse's attorney.

Because of these flimsy privacy protections, it is best for individuals to restrain themselves before posting private information online rather than seeking recourse to the courts after it has already been made public.

Are There Any Limitations on the Use of Electronic Communications In Court?

There are some limitations, but they are sparingly applied.

The communications must be authentic.

For example, the Washington Rules of Evidence require that any piece of evidence (including electronic communications) be authenticated. In the case of electronic communications, this generally means that it must be shown that you are the person that actually sent or posted the communication in question. Therefore, posts made by another person using your online account or fraudulent posts will not be admissible against you.

Unlawfully acquired communications are inadmissible.

Similarly, it is impermissible for stolen or unlawfully intercepted electronic communications to be offered into evidence. For example, if your spouse hacked into your email account or smart phone, the information obtained likely would be inadmissible. Therefore, especially because courts are very willing to admit electronic communications in every other circumstance, it is inadvisable to use unlawful or questionable computer practices to dig up electronic dirt on your spouse.

For further information concerning electronic communication during a divorce, you should contact qualified divorce lawyer.

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