Be your own detective and carefully document everything relevant about
your financial, marital and parenting life. You and your Oregon divorce
attorney will need this information later, and having it collected and
organized early helps you be informed and in control of the situation.
- Get a notebook, filing system or protected email account to document your
divorce. You might consider separate folders or tabs for financial information,
things to discuss with your Oregon divorce attorney, children’s
resources, appointments, a to-do list and legal advice.
- Know your credit history — and your spouse’s. Obtain credit
reports from all three credit reporting agencies and review them for accuracy.
- Copy or scan relevant documents and store in a safe place outside your home.
- Know where your passport is (and your children’s passports as well).
- List the locations (and where the keys are kept) for your files, safe-deposit
boxes and off-site storage units.
- Describe your parenting life as if to a stranger. How many hours a day
do you and your spouse each see your children? Who makes their meals,
brings them to school and performs the bedtime routine? Has your spouse
ever cared for your children alone for more than a day or two? Have you?
Does your spouse know the names of your children’s teachers, coaches,
daycare providers and doctors? Do you? Do your children have any special
needs or disabilities? Who attends their therapies? Who attends parent-teacher
conferences and sports practices? Document this information for your records.
- List any past occurrences of possible domestic violence, whether to you
or your children. Obtain any police or doctors’ reports. Keep a
record of anything abusive or neglectful going forward.
- List your human resources. Some of these people, such as your tax professional
or children’s teacher, might have useful information for your divorce.
Others, such as your friends, family members, clergy, or counselor, might
simply provide emotional support.
- Keep track of any significant changes in your family’s spending,
income or account balances.
Understand Your Finances
The more you can discover now about your family’s finances, the more
you will likely save in time, attorney fees and possible lost opportunities
during your divorce in Oregon. Using your organizational system from the
previous section, learn everything you can about your money. Photocopy
or scan all relevant documents. Be cautious about communicating with your
tax professional or stockbroker at this point, as he or she can also communicate
with your spouse and may inadvertently let slip your preparations for divorce.
KNOW YOUR DEBTS. Especially after reviewing your credit reports, list your own debts,
your spouse’s, and those you own jointly. Are there any close to
being paid off? Copy relevant documents, including your mortgage papers
and credit cards.
KNOW YOUR ASSETS. List banks, stockbrokers and other places where you or your spouse have
accounts, with account numbers and approximate values. Include any money
saved in your children’s names, such as trust or college accounts.
List retirement accounts. List all real property, with values. List vehicles,
with values. List significant personal property, such as art or jewelry,
and their values. Make your best guess as to whether each asset is owned
by both or only one of you. Copy your latest account statements and check
registers. Inventory your safe deposit boxes and offsite storage lockers.
KNOW YOUR FUTURE ASSETS. Do you or your spouse own stock options? When do they vest? What is their
strike price? Are either of you anticipating an inheritance or trust account
payment? Copy your own and your spouse’s annual social security
estimate, or obtain new ones from your local social security office.
KNOW YOUR INCOME. What do you earn as salary, commissions, bonuses and deferred compensation?
What does your spouse earn? If one of you is unemployed or underemployed,
what is your best guess as to their potential earnings? Do either of you
need school or training to improve or start your career? If either of
you are self-employed, what are some accounting documents that can help
determine the amount you earn and your business expenses?
KNOW YOUR INSURANCE. Copy your health, life, automobile and homeowner’s policies.
KNOW YOUR TAXES. Copy your last few years’ tax returns, including schedules and
KNOW YOUR VITAL STATISTICS. Copy your marriage license, social security cards, birth certificates
and passports, if any. Copy your children’s social security cards,
birth certificates and passports, if any.
KNOW YOUR CURRENT HOUSEHOLD BUDGET. How much do you really spend? Include annual or quarterly expenses as
well as monthly ones.
ESTIMATE YOUR FUTURE HOUSEHOLD BUDGET. What is the minimum you need to support yourself and your children?
Consult An Oregon Divorce Attorney
After or while you organize your information, consult a qualified Oregon
WHAT DO I DO AT AN INITIAL CONSULTATION?
Schedule an introductory appointment with the Oregon divorce attorney and
bring the information you have gathered so far. Include a list of your
questions and a short (one-page) summary of your situation:
- Your name and spouse’s name;
- Your ages;
- How long you have been married;
- Whether you have ever been separated from your spouse, and whether there
are separation or prenuptial agreements;
- Your profession and income, and your spouse’s (if one of you doesn’t
work, list when he or she last worked and his/her income then);
- Whether you have children, their ages and whether you or your spouse are
pregnant now (include any stepchildren);
- Whether you or your spouse are engaged in extramarital affairs, especially
if you have children (this is irrelevant to whether you can get divorced
but may affect how a court allocates custody or parenting time);
- Whether either of you are in the military; and
- Whether there has been any domestic violence.
The divorce attorney will likely tell you about his or her experience with
cases like yours in Oregon. She or he will give you some thoughts about
the problematic or simple areas of your case, advise you about the general
process of divorce, and suggest what first steps will help you best achieve
The attorney may provide a rough estimate for how long your Oregon divorce
will take, how much it will cost, and how to begin working together. During
and after your consultation, take notes on how you liked the Oregon divorce
attorney and whether you understand the advice the attorney gave you.
CAN I INTERVIEW SEVERAL OREGON DIVORCE ATTORNEYS?
Yes. You don’t need to hire the first Oregon divorce attorney you
consult. Interview a second or third if you need to, to find someone you
trust and respect. Note that each attorney you consult is thereby forbidden
from representing your spouse.
DOES DIVORCE HAVE TO MEAN A FIGHT?
Consider how aggressive your spouse — and you — are likely
to be in divorce litigation. Can you afford (in emotions, time and money)
an all-out court battle? Then again, will protecting your assets and/or
children require a substantial struggle? Would you or your spouse consider
mediation, collaborative or cooperative divorce (described in Part One
of this guide)? Advise your Oregon divorce attorney of these issues.
CAN I DIVORCE WITHOUT AN ATTORNEY IN OREGON?
You may think that filing for divorce without a qualified Oregon divorce
attorney will save you money, but that is very unlikely. A divorce attorney
can help protect assets and rights you might not know you have. Your attorney
can also help you plan for future contingencies, such as remarriage. For
more information, see “Why There Is No Such Thing as a Free Divorce”
in Part One of this guide.
If you are considering divorce in Oregon, the attorneys at McKinley Irvin
Portland can help you no matter how complicated your case may be or how
difficult your situation may seem. With over 20 years in family law practice,
McKinley Irvin’s experienced, compassionate and dedicated Oregon
divorce attorneys know how to protect your interests and help you through
your divorce. We will explain your rights and options within the law so
you can make the best choices for you and your family.
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