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Family Law Attorneys for Unmarried Couples in Washington

Making the decision to end a long-term relationship is never easy, regardless of your marital status. Over the years, unmarried couples have begun to encounter many of the same legal issues experienced by divorcing married couples. Today, various laws and legal techniques exist to address these issues for both heterosexual and same-sex unmarried couples.

At McKinley Irvin, our team of family lawyers is prepared to help unmarried couples in Seattle and throughout Washington deal with the following legal matters:

Common Law Marriage & Committed Intimate Relationships

Unmarried couples cannot become "common law married" in Washington State, which means that the Washington State legislature has not developed any statutory law addressing the division of property at the end of a relationship involving an unmarried couple. As a result, the Washington courts have developed case law addressing the division of property when an unmarried couple ends their relationship.

This line of cases refers to these unique marriage-like relationships as "committed intimate relationships" (formerly "meretricious relationships"). This law applies to property acquired during the course of the couple's relationship and may be used by both same-sex and heterosexual unmarried couples.

Paternity or Parentage Cases

Washington law delineates parentage and paternity guidelines in "the parentage statute," RCW 26.26. This law typically applies to unmarried, heterosexual couples who have a child but may also apply to same-sex couples who, for example, have a child through assisted reproductive therapy or surrogacy.

The parentage statutes may be used to establish a "parenting plan" for a child whose parents are unmarried. The parentage statutes also provide methods of establishing parentage for parents who were not married at the time of their child's birth.

The courts in Washington may also apply the common law (court established) of de facto parentage, which provides a means for someone who has fulfilled a parental role to a child (without a biological or adoptive relationship to the child) to establish a parental relationship. The de facto parentage laws may benefit the LGBT community because both members of a same-sex couple cannot be the biological parent of any children born to either of them, and the second person filling the parental role may not always establish a recognized legal relationship with the child through adoption.

Domestic Partnership

The Washington State legislature created "domestic partnerships" in 2007 to grant relationship rights and responsibilities to same-sex couples. The statute also includes a provision to protect couples where at least one partner is more than 62 years old, regardless of the sex of either member of the partnership.

Older Couples

Older couples may choose to refrain from marriage for a variety of reasons. Some couples want to avoid losing pension benefits from a previous marriage while having access to certain rights for their new partner. If at least one party is over age 62, the couple may register as a domestic partnership.

Once the couple enters a partnership, they are bound by the same responsibilities and privileges as a married couple. If the relationship ends, the couple must file to dissolve their domestic partnership and divide their property and debt through the domestic partnership divorce process.

Same-Sex Couples

Same-sex couples can enter legal marriage relationships in Washington State as of December 6, 2012. According to the law, these couples are no longer allowed to enter domestic partnerships unless one party of the relationship is at least 62 years old. Same-sex couples who entered a domestic partnership before December 6, 2012 can choose to enter a marriage or wait until June 30, 2014 when their partnership will automatically convert to marriage.

Questions About “Divorce” for Long-Term Unmarried Couples in Washington

Ending a long-term relationship is a difficult process whether the partners are married or not. Whether you are entering into a new relationship or your relationship has come to an end, your attorney can help protect your financial future. While these questions and answers provide a basic overview, it is critically important that you consult an attorney experienced in this unique area of the law to determine how these laws apply to your specific situation.

Does the law really have protections for unmarried couples even though we can’t get divorced?

Yes. In order to protect unmarried couples when their relationships end, the law has developed to provide special protections that permit certain aspects of community property law to be applied when unmarried couples end their relationships. These protections are embodied within the “meretricious relationship” doctrine as first defined by the Washington Supreme Court in the case of In Re Marriage of Lindsey.

Does the “meretricious relationship” doctrine apply to same-sex couples?

Yes. The Washington Supreme Court held in Vasquez v. Hawthorne that the meretricious relationship doctrine may be applied regardless of the legal validity of the relationship between the parties. Therefore, the gender and sexual orientation of each partner are irrelevant when determining whether a meretricious relationship exists.

How do I ask the court to divide our property if I can’t file for divorce?

Your attorney will prepare and file a “complaint” that asks the court to establish that a meretricious relationship existed between you and your partner and to divide any property that the two of you acquired during your relationship.

How does the court determine whether a meretricious relationship existed?

Not every relationship is a meretricious relationship. A meretricious relationship is defined as “a stable, marital-like relationship where both parties cohabit with knowledge that a lawful marriage between them does not exist.” In order to determine if a relationship was “marital-like,” the Washington Supreme Court held in the case of In re the Marriage of Pennington that the court will examine five distinct factors:

  1. Whether there has been continuous cohabitation;
  2. The duration of the relationship;
  3. The purpose of the relationship;
  4. The pooling of resources and services for joint projects;
  5. The intent of the parties.

By way of example, the court would likely find that a meretricious relationship exists where the parties decided to reside together for many years in a monogamous relationship, where they shared their incomes and expenses, and where they acquired property together during their relationship. It would not likely find that a meretricious relationship exists where the parties were dating other people, living separately, and not sharing their financial affairs.

If the court determines that I had a meretricious relationship with my partner, what happens then?

If the court determines that a meretricious relationship existed, it will evaluate the interest each party has in the property acquired during the relationship and then make a just and equitable distribution of that property. In dividing the property, the court will turn to community property laws for guidance. Although community property laws do not directly apply to meretricious relationships, the court is permitted to refer to community property laws to help it make the just and equitable division of any “community-like” property that the parties acquired during their relationship.

How do community property laws apply to committed intimate relationships?

Washington is a community property state. The basic precepts of community property law are simple: All property and debt acquired during a marriage in Washington is presumed to be community property and debt and will be equitably divided between the parties by the court if the marriage ends. Additionally, each party’s separate property is before the court for allocation to ensure that both parties receive a fair settlement after a divorce.

As discussed above, community property laws do not directly apply in same-sex relationships, but the court is permitted to use them for guidance in determining how to divide “community-like” property when a meretricious relationship ends.

Unlike in a dissolution of marriage case, however, the court cannot divide any separate property of the parties when a meretricious relationship ends; it is only permitted to divide “community-like” property and debt. Your attorney can help you characterize your property as separate or “community-like.”

Can the court order one partner to pay spousal support to the other when a meretricious relationship ends?

There is no legal authority for a court to order one partner to pay spousal maintenance to the other after a meretricious relationship dissolves.

What if my partner and I have already decided on how we want our property to be divided?

An attorney who is specifically knowledgeable about meretricious relationship cases and other laws that impact unmarried couples will be able to help you prepare written agreements that will bind both partners and protect your wishes should your relationship end. These cohabitation agreements, similar to a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, will allow you and your partner to make your own decisions about how your property should be divided rather than relying on a judge to make these divisions for you.

What if my partner and I have children together?

If you have been raising children with your partner, it is critical that you consult with an attorney knowledgeable about family law and how it applies to families where the partners are unmarried. For heterosexual couples, the Parentage Act applies. An action brought under the Parentage Act can establish the legal parentage of a child, set child support, and provide for a parenting plan.

While the law has recently developed to provide special protections for same-sex partners and their children, this is a new and developing area of the law. If you and your partner are of the same gender, it is imperative that you have an experienced family law attorney sensitive to LGBT parenting issues to help you establish the non-biological parent’s parental rights. Once these rights are established, your attorney can help you develop a parenting plan that will determine the residential schedule of the children and how much monthly child support will need to be paid by the other partner.

Are all attorneys equally able to help me with my meretricious relationship case?

Before choosing your attorney, you should first make certain that the attorney has the knowledge, sensitivity, and resources to successfully represent you in your meretricious relationship case. Regardless of your sexual orientation, gay or heterosexual, you deserve attorneys who understand your specific concerns and have experience advising parties in meretricious relationships and helping them resolve their disputes.

Please contact us for a consultation appointment. Whether it be at the beginning of your relationship or the end, and whether it be preparing amicable cohabitation agreements or representing you in complex litigation, McKinley Irvin stands ready and willing to help you protect your property rights, establish your parental rights, and secure your financial future.

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