When it comes to matrimony, many people wonder if age should really matter.
After all, if you truly love a person, should it matter if they are 10,
20, or 30 years older than you? Should it matter that you are both 19
and feel ready to get married? What about when the marriage doesn’t
work out – is there an “age” for divorce? While this
is a highly personal topic to which there is no right or wrong answer,
there are still some grains of wisdom that can be gleaned from studies
and other people’s experiences.
In this blog, we’d like to share some perspective on whether age
matters in marriage and divorce.
Age Gaps in Couples
According to the New York Post,
the bigger the age gap, the shorter the marriage. The argument here is that spouses from different generations have different
values and cultural reference points, opposite tastes in film and music,
very different sets of friends, and very different approaches to their
sex life. The article states that couples with a 20-year age gap are 95
percent more likely to divorce than a couple with only a one-year age
Can Age at Marriage Predict Divorce?
Institute for Family Studies blog argues that for many people, the longer you wait to marry, the better
– but not too long. Interestingly, the blog suggests that young
couples under the age of 25 have a higher divorce risk than couples who
married in their late twenties, but data also shows that there is also
an increased statistical risk of divorce for couples who waited until
their mid-thirties to get married. Regardless of these conclusions, successful
marriages are typically built on a solid foundation of maturity, coping
skills, and social support.
When it comes to divorce, marital breakdown can happen at any age. Gray
divorce has become very common in recent years – in fact, the
divorce rate for people over the age of 50 has more than doubled since 1990. Regardless of whether older people got
married at the “right age” or not, people are beginning to
see divorce not as an embarrassing social stigma, but as a way to take
control of their own happiness and rewrite their futures. According to
Susan L. Brown, a sociologist at Bowling Green State University who authored
a report on gray divorce, “It’s not as if marital quality
has suddenly declined. Instead, I think we have higher expectations now
for what constitutes a successful marriage.”
Despite all the speculation, studies, data, and opinions about how age
affects marital relationships, ultimately there is no rule governing the
“ideal” age to get married or divorced. Each couple and each
marriage is different. If you are thinking about a divorce, it is important
to remember this fact, and to make the decisions that work best for you
and your situation.
McKinley Irvin invites you to
contact a Washington divorce attorney at our firm for an understanding and thorough review of your case. Having
handled thousands of divorce cases in more than two decades of practice,
we have extensive experience with all types of divorce and family law
issues and would be happy to help you with your matter.