We’ve all heard divorce stories — from high-conflict courtroom
battles, to collaborative divorce, to “conscious uncoupling.”
There are many ways people end a marriage. Yet, anyone getting a divorce
can fall prey to certain mistakes that complicate the process and add
Part of the job of your Washington divorce attorney is to advise you on
what and what not to do during your divorce. We personalize this advice
for every client we represent, but there are some nearly universal mistakes
that you should avoid when getting a divorce.
Below are our top 4 common mistakes to avoid when getting a divorce:
Not choosing your battles – Divorce is an emotionally turbulent experience. It’s important
to keep emotions in check when you are making decisions that affect the
rest of your life (and your children’s). Instead, do your best to
remain grounded and focused on what you need to secure a positive future.
While some fights may be worth taking all the way to court, many are not
and can be settled through negotiation. You’ll also save money on
legal fees if you can limit unnecessary conflict.
Not talking to your children…or saying too much – Make sure you take the time to talk to your children about divorce and
your situation. Be age-specific in how you communicate and help them understand
that divorce is not their fault. On the other hand, you should be cautious
in telling kids about the reason for the divorce. And you shouldn’t
talk negatively about the other parent in their presence. Trying to turn
your kids against the other parent can seriously backfire in court. For
more details, see our post on
Telling Your Children about Divorce.
Misinformation – The internet, family, and friends can be a great source of divorce advice
and support. Doing your own research and talking to others can help you
prepare for divorce, but heed caution before you act on any of this advice.
Remember, divorce is ultimately a legal process and what matters is how
the law applies to your particular circumstances. Consulting with a family
law or divorce lawyer is the best way to understand the legal realities
of your situation.
Forgetting about the long-term – Divorce can become complex, especially when children, property, and other
factors are involved. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and look for
easy solutions. Instead, to protect your long term well-being, make the
effort to ensure that you handle these decisions with care. Get help if
you need it, either from a divorce attorney, financial professionals,
parenting experts, or counselors.
The McKinley Irvin team is committed to helping individuals and families
across Washington and the Pacific Northwest during the divorce process.
If you have questions about your current situation, common divorce mistakes,
and how our legal team may be able to help you, please contact us to request